“For every closed door, a new one opens”
Once upon a time, this was good enough. It has a great deal of truth to it: one opportunity passes, new options arise.
But, nowadays, it seems like suddenly it’s not good enough that it’s a new opportunity. Now it has to be something bigger, better, and full of awesome.
“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thoughts I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” (source unknown)
Why does everything have to be “better”? Why can’t things just be different, sometimes? Or, even worse? Just because something isn’t better doesn’t mean it doesn’t have value. We still learn from the cards we’ve been dealt and sometimes the learning includes having to find a way out of a mess.
I think it’s really problematic to ignore or undervalue the bad things that happens in life. As mentioned, we learn from them. Also, we gain strength from them.
For example: I once applied for a job at a marine biology based library. I was rejected. I eventually found myself in my current job. Was I redirected to something better? I doubt it. Just something different. In fact, there was a time when I really hated the job I ended up with. My current work (same company, different unit) isn’t a bad job, but it’s certainly not something that allows me to geek out and surround myself with things relating to the ocean. I do have the luxury of a regular schedule and not having to deal with too many people, but I don’t live near the ocean (the library job was in BC). So, I wouldn’t say that I was led to something better, just something different (and, for a time, something worse).
Yes, sometimes you are presented with better opportunities or you do realize that the opportunity you thought you wanted wasn’t right for you after all, but sometimes you really do miss out on an amazing opportunity and you just need to accept the rejection and move on.